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Are you asking yourself why are you still single when it feels like all your friends are engaged or married? And when is it going to be my turn? The truth is that everyone is on their own time schedule in life, what happens to one friend may not happen to you in the next five years from now. But there is some important questions you do need to ask yourself and search why you could still be single!
When I was single I had a mentor unfortunately she passed away six months before me and my now husband got in engaged. I know not everyone will have a mentor. That is why I created this blog I wanted to help women grow and to help empower them. She noticed that I had few bad habits when it came to dating, and she made me recognize and help me work on my bad habits. And now I want you to do the research and see where you need to work on yourself. So you can have a successful relationship.
First reason why you are still single
The first thing she noticed is when it came to a man liking me I would not Ike him back until he started losing interest in me I would start to like him back then I would not want anything to happen. I did that for few reasons one I did not want to get hurt; and the friend group I was in at the time there would be at least one or two girls would start to claim that man was theirs they would know how to make you feel like you were not allowed to get into a relationship.
Second reason why you are still single
The second thing my mentor showed me is that I needed to work on letting a man be the man in the relationship, Ladies we live in a society where we tell women that you do not need a man to take care of you where this is true you don’t always have to have a man take care of you; you should want to let a man take care of you I will admit I had a hard time letting a man take care of me. It’s because yes men want an independent woman but they also want a woman that wants a man to take care of them because men are naturally a provider. I called my best friend up when my now husband asked me out for the first time and do you know what the first thing is that came out of her mouth was Sarah you are going to let this man love you!! I was pretty annoyed with that, but I needed to hear that.
Third reason why are you still single
Now this third reason is where you are going to need to do some soul searching! Now we are only human and nobody is perfect but how loud are you letting your insecurities show. Just about everybody has insecurities, but how loud are your insecurities for example do you talk about a certain person a lot and a negative way or even try to sabotage that person that you’re insecure about, ladies men see this and they see that as very unattractive. Especially a successful man. He wants a confident woman because she is not going to see his success as a threat and try to sabotage it by talking about him negatively behind his back or trying to use him to upgrade.
Fourth reason why you are still single
Here is one example I have noticed that a few girls do and it sabotage their chances “a pick me” or “too easy to get”. Men do see you I promise they may not be interested or they are trying to see if you are the best option. But ladies we should not act desperate. Acting desperate is very unattractive when you don’t know yourself worth! When you know yourself worth you will not pick just any man that walks across your path. You will be more reserved making sure that this man fits your criteria. I’m going to be honest with you! You do not want a man what doesn’t want you. Some guys will only be with you for a time until they find the one they actually want to be with. That’s why it is important to know yourself worth.
Fifth reason why you are still single
Overthinking often leads to second-guessing. Let’s say you meet someone great, but instead of enjoying the moment, you start dissecting every detail what if they are not really into me?” What if it doesn’t work out?” The problem is, by focusing too much on the what ifs,” you may convince yourself not to take chances, missing out on meaningful conversations.
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