This post has affiliate links in it, no cost to you! I will make a commission off of them.
I have had my fair share of dealing with the mean girls! Dealing with them is never fun, but it’s how you handle them. I dealt with a lot of them in my teens but you would think being an adult that would all stop wel it doesn’t! I know it can be hard picking the right people to be friends with butit’s very important to be picky who you are friends with! Because good friendships make life fun and easier to go through life knowing someone has your back!
- Now the first thing you want to do with dealing with them is checking your heart first! 1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your cares upon Him, for He cars for you. Talk to God first and tell Him how you are feeling and why you are feeling that way. By checking your heart and making sure you are the one who is in control of the situation. And handling it with grace and elegance like a true lady!
- Second thing I want to tell you is make sure your body language is normal! Because people can see if you are uncomfortable or nervous in certain situations. Making sure your body language is normal tells the mean girls that you are not intimidated by them.
- You don’t have to let them steal your peace and you most definitely don’t have to have them on your social media if seeing them post stuff bothers you just unfollow or block them. Something that an elegant lady never does is engage in social media wars by posting certain quotes or Bible verse hoping they will see it and they will change. That never works and that just adds to the fire you never fight fire with fire!
- Now I know that I talk a lot about how an elegant lady should talk but it is something that is very important to remember when leveling up as an elegant lady. When you have to talk to a mean girl make sure the tone in your voice is polite and you are thinking before you say something! Because you don’t want to sound rude or scared you want to be in control. It’s always important to think before you say anything because you don’t want to give them any ammunition to start rumors or have a real reason to dislike you even more!
- Don’t take it personally when you come across a mean girl! Sometimes the mean girls are just jealous of what you have or who you are! And they are just unhappy with themselves, or they are just having a bad day and they are taking it out on you unfortunately. The truth is hurt people hurt others!
And insecure girls will try to throw their insecurities onto you and make you like you are the bad guy! I like to call this the mirroring effect making you feel that you are the one who has the problem and everything you do is wrong. One girl I thought was my friend who would always tell me because I had myself put together that I looked like a mean girl, and my other friends who also like to be put together were also mean girls! She would be the one talking behind my back trying to get others to not like me. Because she didn’t like herself.
How to identify the insecure mean girl
I want to help other girls to identify the insecure mean girl because I have need hurt by them I don’t want anyone else getting hurt or losing their lives because some insecure girls can be very dangerous and out of control!! And sometimes it just best to stay away from them!
- Jealousy
Jealousy is one of the biggest signs of a insecure person, they look at you and that you are very attractive and guys probably talk to youalot, and they don’t get as much attention as you do. Or you have much stuff then they do! I had few girls that I thought was my friends and they were upset when I got a new car! Well I had to get a new car because my old car was towel. I went from an embarrassing suv that looked like a hearse to to nice looking car! And they would make some mean comments!
- Overreacting
Overreacting or always getting upset easily over anything and everything! I knew a few girls who overreacted and would blow up because they liked making a scene and having people look at them, now it’s okay to have people’s attention but getting mad and making a scene is not good attention!
- Sabotaging
sabotaging is a big sign of insecurity, when you have a friend and she’s always trying to sabotage your relationship with a guy or friendship with other’s girls. They are are very envious of you and will do anything to make sure you don’t have what they want. As a Christian you would think other Christians wouldn’t sabotage your relationship or even certain friendships! But that’s not true I have seen marriages break because they wanted that marriage! I have also seen that one insecure friend try to force a girl to be with a man she didn’t want because she didn’t want that girl to be with the man she actually wanted to be with and be happy.
- Manipulation
Manipulatin someone to have control over them! Manipulating is a harmful behavior when you see someone gaslighting or lying or even blaming you! You need to stay away from them, I know sometimes it’s hard to make boundaries but it’s for your own safety!
- Gossip.
Gossiping can be another sign of insecurity, talking about how you think that person got whatever they have that they want in a negative way because you are jealous! And gossiping can even hurt someone’s life like ruin friendships or relationships even get someone fired from their job! As an elegant lady it’s not good to gossip!
I hope this helps you with seeing red flags and helps you pick the right people to be around. I know it can be difficult with dealing with a mean girl in your life but handling it with grace really shows what kind of character you have! And if you want a good book to read to help you set boundaries with the mean girls check out the book Boundaries and the workbook too!
Workbook https://amzn.to/44X06Pc
Leave a Reply